I heard Michelle Obama say, “We are all in the process of becoming.” This resonated deeply with me, as it reminded me of the words of Margery Williams from The Velveteen Rabbit, “You become. It takes a long time.” Currently, I am holding down my household, closing out the school year, working as the head bartender in my family’s business and trying to streamline my presence as a business owner. I have more than enough to occupy my time, but I must admit I felt myself becoming weary in well doing.
I am set to host my business’ first event, MakeUP 101 Live- a hands-on make up tutorial that will also feature women business owners. I launched my event earlier this month. Initially, my post got about 9 shares and just 10 likes. Nevertheless, I remained excited and sent out requests for vendors. That post did even better and every vendor I sent an application to, responded with enthusiasm. I have posted about the event via Facebook and Instagram multiple times a week since then. I am not one to complain, it just isn’t in my nature, but I have had more strangers than family to share my post, and even less to like the post and not a single ticket has been purchased, nor a vendor contract with payment received-until today. Just yesterday I could feel myself getting discouraged. Just yesterday, I began to entertain thoughts of cancelling the event. Just yesterday, I started to question why I was doing it at all, if not even family was supporting me. Today, I received my first vendor application with payment and a request for two tickets! This, for me, is confirmation enough that I am in the process of becoming and that to become takes time and no matter what, I should stay the course!
If you are too in the process of becoming, I’d like to share with you some valuable nuggets that I have picked up along the way. Feel free to apply them to your situation.
- I was built for this life. I may not have everything I want, but I have everything I need.
- Focus on the people that show up in your life. People have a right and responsibility to work daily on whatever they need to, to build a great life for themselves.
- Never take it personal.
- Seek out opportunities to help another person. The blessing is in the joy and ease from suffering that your help brings.
- Always, always have a grateful heart. Gratitude keeps you grounded and is the anchor for hope!
- Do the work! There is no other way to get where you want to go. Encourage yourself, trust the vision, trust the process.
- Validation comes from within.
- Look forward. Move forward. Fall forwards.
- You do not have to do it the way it has always been done. Who said so? Fuck them rules! Do you!
- God is listening!